I am a native Californian who has lived in the cradle of liberal progressiveness for most of my life.  Many of my friends and family are entrenched in these progressive beliefs.  What I have seen over the years is a belief that all people are born inherently good and will choose to do the right thing if given the chance.  Instead of disciplining you children you should talk to them and tell them what they are doing is wrong; Well progressives don’t like to use the term wrong because it may hurt the developing psyche of the child.  So, we can’t discipline our children for fear of causing psychological harm.  All people can accomplish anything if they put their mind to it.  So, we can’t discourage our children by pointing out their lack of performance in any activity they try.  Always building up their ego.  Never allowing them to fall flat to learn about picking ourselves up.  Protecting our children from every perceived danger, sheltering them from what is really happening in the world around them.

Believing abortions are a woman’s choice because it is her body.

Well, most of that is wrong.

What about the body you are aborting?  Weren’t you that fetus at one time?  I bet you are happy your mom didn’t abort you.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate women or think that women should not be in charge of their own reproductive rights.  I believe both women and men should only become pregnant when both parties are ready.  I believe that being responsible in preventing a pregnancy instead of terminating it.  I believe the choice is when to become pregnant.  I believe in your choice to determine the birth control method that works best for you without harming anyone else.  You can choose:

• The rhythm method
• Condoms
• Birth control pills
• IUD
• The day after pill
• Abstinence

Or any combination of the above.  There are probably other choices I am not aware of.

Abortion is not an acceptable form of birth control.  (Note: I included the day after pill in the list of birth control methods for those of you who were drunk, victims of rape, victims of incest, etc.)  Once you are pregnant you have crossed a line which you can’t return from.  This is true for both men and women.  Once your pregnancy has been established you are now responsible for another life, which you helped to create.  Both Mother and Father.  The choice is to choose to be responsible for your own actions or not.  It is time for our society to choose personal responsibility.  It is time for our society to look at results, not intentions.  It is time for all of us to understand it IS our fault when something bad happens to us.  We need to realize that we can do whatever we want, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else.

Aborting babies kills people.  This most definitely falls into the category of hurting others.  The baby’s life is his or her own, not yours.  Killing a baby so you can live the way you want is not OK.  IT IS WRONG.  Abortions have nothing to do with women’s health.  It is only a way to avoid responsibility.  I am sure some of you will argue this position, but once logic, morals, and ethics are applied you will find this is the only answer.

Once you become pregnant, you are no longer responsible for only yourself in this world, but responsible for another human being.  If you were not ready to be a parent yet, then you should have protected yourself from becoming pregnant in the first place.  Again, this is true for both Mother and Father.

Hear that: MOTHER AND FATHER

That’s right, both a mother and a father in each household.  Single parenthood is another failed experiment.  Boys and girls both need to have a strong female role model and a strong male role model in their lives.  The idea that men and women are the same is preposterous.  Equal?  Absolutely, but not the same.  Men and women are different biologically, and psychologically.  Each has something very important to teach their children.  In fact, there are things only mothers can teach effectively, things only fathers can teach effectively, and things only the pair together can teach effectively.  When it is time to commit to having children it is also time to commit to be a spouse.  Marriage or not, you need to be together as a family.  Being parents together is being a partner with another.

To be a partner you need to communicate well, be honest, and learn how to compromise.  Strong partnerships are stronger than their component parts.  A strong partnership makes you a strong family.  Children of strong families have less behavior problems, are better students, and develop a strong moral and ethical foundation.

Your pregnancy is the perfect time to build a partnership relationship with your significant other.  Things start off slowly and get progressively faster.  Physical and mental changes happen for both mother and father.  As things change it is the perfect opportunity to learn how to communicate with each other effectively.  Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal clues to the changes in your spouse.  Start thinking about how you can make life easier on your partner instead of how to make it easier on yourself.  There is enough stress to go around, so don’t start making more.  Build your strong family foundation before your first arrives and you will have an easier time when he or she is born.

When I found out I was having my first child I was scared and nervous.  I didn’t feel ready to be a father, but it was happening whether I wanted it to or not.  I don’t have it in me to run away or to give up, so I changed my thinking and chose to make decisions based on what is best for my unborn daughter instead of what was best for me.  My life became hers.  I was now responsible for raising a person to be a productive member of society.  My responsibility was to provide for my family while teaching and leading my children.

You may not “feel” ready, but then again, we never feel ready for major change in our own lives.  You made the choice, now be responsible and raise your child to be better than yourself.